As I grow in sobriety I also grow in tolerance. I observe this growth in my interactions, especially with difficult individuals.
Last week I had an opportunity to deal with a person who is actively drinking and not very nice. Instead of getting mad, I recognized my former self in this person and felt my heart swell with compassion. My kindness to them cleared the air and the situation was resolved. I don’t think this person was used to others treating them kindly. I’m glad I could do this for her.
I was so intolerant in my drinking days, especially when I was hungover. I threw fits in stores with clerks and yelled at customer service reps over the phone. They were just doing their job but I would get frustrated so easily. I’m sure I put out a horrible energy and others responded in kind.
Now it’s just the opposite. I’m calm and patient and generally happy. That’s what people feel and it’s what I get back. I marvel at my “good luck”! People are so nice! I used to joke when I got sober that everyone changed! Everyone was so kind and helpful! It was me who changed. We get back what we give out.
It’s such a sad way to live – that vicious cycle of drinking, hangover, intolerance, and expectations. I’m so grateful to be sober, to live an authentic life, filled with love and kindness, compassion and caring. I look at how far I’ve come and realize I’ve become that 4C woman I used to dream about.
Stop drinking, use the Statements and you will too. Onward! — Deb – Cornville, AZ
from Women for Sobriety’s official blog
